ACcordyChase
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This is probably just a personal rant and rave but I shall share my feelings anyways.
This lack of a gf is really getting to me. I go through a vicious cycle, where for a period of time, I'll actually try to test the waters and get shot down. Repeatedly. (I've heard every lame excuse in the book) Then, I'll say the hell with trying and get the INSANE impression that that special someone would present herself to me, and play it cool. No luck there, either.
Don't know what else to do. I'm a lonely f~cker, and I hate being lonely. I mean before I know it, I'll be ass-up in my grave before I get a girlfriend. People say my negative attitude sucks, but yours would too if you knew how many times I've been rejected.
I'm 24 now and I've never had a girlfriend.
I'm not asking for sympathy or anything, just sharing how I feel. I've always believed that honesty and openness are good morals, and even now I haven't shyed away from that, even after all I been through. I mean straight up, if I like someone, I'mma say so.
I don't know, sometimes I may go about that the wrong way, cuz I'm actually pretty shy and sometimes the words are hard to come by. Hell, most of the time I don't even ask people out straight up, it's "Hey, would you wanna hang out some time," or something. And then sometimes, I don't even have the guts to say anything. I'll write what I feel down and then compile a short note out of those feelings to that person I like.
I mean, I don't think I'm boring by any means. I try to be humorous. Basically, I'm myself, and I ain't gonna change that.
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"Too bad we'll never know.....if this is a face you could learn to love....."
-Doyle (R.I.P.)
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cinnawicca
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hey andy, i know how you feel and don't worry things will change. my fiance passed away four years ago and i haven't been with anyone since. and it's not that i havent tried dating again i just chalk it up to bad timing. the most important thing is not to let it get you down.
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Cordy: I was the ditziest bitch in Sunnydale, coulda had any man I wanted; now I'm all superhero-y and the best action I can get is an invisible ghost who's good with a loofah.
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brownsbros3
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I feel your pain. I haven't had a girlfriend in two years. It was a pretty messy breakup. They always say down here in my part of Texas when you fall of the horse, you just have to get back on, but its easier said than done. The really hard part for me has been finding a girl that's not stuck on herself. Most of the girls around here that I've met are so shallow and self-absorbed. What makes it bad is I've got five friggin' weddings to go to so far this year, four of which are family weddings, and the other is a guy I went to high school with. Because I just turned 29 earlier this week, my family has been riding me extra hard to find someone. It's really annoying. I would love to find the right person someday, but if that doesn't happen, I don't think I should consider my life a total failure.
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XAngelsCharismaX
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Well, I'm 20, and apparently socially inadequate. Apparently I don't even realize when a boy's asking me out. But it's not like... wanna come to my football practice is obvious, is it?
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Cordelia: You're a lot smarter than you look. Of course, you look like a retard.
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THE_GUV
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I came to the conclusion a few months ago that I'm going to die alone and miserable. I'm 20 and I've given up with women. The last time I pulled was nearly a year and a half ago. The last 3 girls I've really really fancied have all had boyfriends called BEN!!! It's like the world is laughing at me. What are the chances that 3 in a row have b/fs called Ben? So I've decided to give up trying, I've quit drinking also in an attempt to save my finances and get my body back into shape, as a consequence I refuse to go to any clubs because without alcohol I cannot dance to shite music. Basically mate I think there's always people that you look at and say "I'm glad I'm not them" and unfortunately we are. Someone has to be though.
Sorry to sound like Marvin the Paranoid Android
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Fry So you guys don't believe in Robot Jesus?
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ACcordyChase
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That's funny as hell cuz I know a bunch of Bens myself. Most of which have really hot gfs. Not funny as in the I'm making fun of you and rubbing it in, but funny as in ironic.
Honestly, I don't think I'm very picky, either. I just "think" I catch a vibe, or things seems different when I'm around a certain someone....or stuff like that. As a Pisces, I'm an emotional bastard and I can read feelings rather well. Except obviously if it comes to "hmm. would this particular girl wanna be my gf."
Or maybe its just a serious run of bad luck that either all the girls I meet aren't interested/looking or one of the other 450 excuses, mainly "I have a bf." Or "I'm SORT OF seeing someone." I really hate that one. It's like they don't have the guts to tell me straight out that they have a man. Phooey.
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Well, I'm 20, and apparently socially inadequate. Apparently I don't even realize when a boy's asking me out. But it's not like... wanna come to my football practice is obvious, is it?
Lol, Cort- I've already suggested sports as a hang-out item. Like I've offered to hang out with girls I know at my bowling league. And even offered to drive, pick them up, whatever's neccessary. *shrugs* I dunno, it's like there's no one interested.
I gotta ask a honest question though. How many girls HERE that know me wouldn't turn me down? You know, barring the fact that there's the whole distance thing, and that I'm always working. I don't mean to sound conceited by saying "wouldn't turn me down" like I'm some sort of sexy mad stud or some crap, but I didn't know how to word it anyway else.
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"Too bad we'll never know.....if this is a face you could learn to love....."
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THE_GUV
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I'm an aries and apparently I'm unpredictable. What's so bloody wrong with being unpredictable? Who wants to be predictable, or as I see it BORING!
Thing is on the Ben the thing, the first girl I knew him and he seemed like an ok guy (apart from he showed desire in helping her quit smoking), I never met the second girl's b/f, but this Ben with the girl I like now is a f*cking loser. He's such a f*cking geek, with buck teeth, glasses (not bad mouthing people who wear glasses, I do, but I wear contacts most of the time but in his case it just makes his image worse) and a gormy look on his face. Their relationship is about as passionate blind, deaf and impotent 100yr old and his 95 yr old blind, deaf and frigid wife with chronic arthritus. He's a year younger than me too. Hate the  tosspot. Sorry it's just I have this unbridled desire to absolutely kick the sh*t out of him. One day I'm gonna snap and go on killing rampage of people called Ben 
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Fry So you guys don't believe in Robot Jesus?
Jewish Robot We believe he was built, and that he was a very well programmed robot. But he was not our messiah!
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XAngelsCharismaX
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Well, Aries are head-strong and bold and... such. As a passive chick, it's not so much of a turn-on. Then again, I hate them air signs. Such flirts.
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Cordelia: You're a lot smarter than you look. Of course, you look like a retard.
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THE_GUV
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Actually she is a really nice "passive" girl, never has a bad word to say about anyone. And the usual level of "gittishness" in my nature goes away when I'm with her. When I was nominated as person most likely to be an axe-murderer in our halls (still don't get it) she said I was a teddybear.  I'm only a bastard to people when they have a problem with me or they're a complete [censored]...if not I can get on with most people.
BTW I'm one of the least flirty people I know...Darlin' 
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Fry So you guys don't believe in Robot Jesus?
Jewish Robot We believe he was built, and that he was a very well programmed robot. But he was not our messiah!
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BiteMeeh
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i have a friend...we'll call him..Bob. Bob is 24. He lives at home...he wears a lot of black and he's a very cool guy.
He's never had a gf.
Now..he complains occassionally, but who doesnt?
Its not that you're unattractive or that people dont check you out. Its never that. why? because everyone has DIFFERENT taste and even people i consider to be 'blah' can be beautiful to others.
a great personality and awesome humor is key. you seem to have that- oh god yes i just gave u a compliment. go ahead, yelp in joy, do the dance of joy.
It may be that youre just not putting your foot out.
Youre not making enough of an effort for others to notice. that always seems to be the most important thing others look for in a 'partner' 'lover' 'companion'
do you go out, ever? speak to strangers? smile?
when you put yourself out there- even if you think youre going to look like a complete idiot- suddenly people notice you. suddenly you're what they want. and you know what helpS? Confidence. I love it when i see a confident guy- but nothing too cocky, please..i cant stand them.
Know youre awesome and freakin' hot and start off with that.
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