THE_GUV
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The girl I fancy split up with her boyfriend (of 3 years) recently. I wasn't going to say anything to her about my feelings coz I thought give her some space and time and didn't want her to fall out with me for acting "vulture" like. But since I came back to Uni she's barely said 2 words to me. The other night I came to a decision that the next time I saw her I was going to tell her, coz I really don't have anything to lose. I'm almost certain the answer's gonna be no but I figured that this has been doing my head in for 10 months and I need t get it off my chest and stop being a coward. And today I've found out she's got a new boyfriend. This wasn't going to change my decision but now I'm not sure I'll be doing the right thing, and I think all I'm gonna do is upset her. And I think someone may have already told her, so my thunder may have been stolen. Advice people?
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BiteMeeh
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You say youve been holding onto this for 10 long months...I say, get it off your chest and go for it. She has a bf, ALREADY? My god, the girl just got out of a 3-year relationship, she probably doesn't know what she wants, she's probably i need of a friend. You can be that friend- but if you dont tell her whats been in your heart for so long, it wont be healthy for you. Muster up your guts and tell her EXACTLY how you feel. Theres no point in wasting time.
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THE_GUV
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Yeah I'm going to. Just been talking to my housemate about it and he thinks I should tell her. The only obstacle now is getting her on her own on neutral ground. Might be going to her place on saturday but I don't fancy telling her there, dunno why it wouldn't seem right, I'd feel exposed. I'm hoping I'll bump into her at Uni.
Kinda pissed off at myself actually. Wish I'd said summit last year. Her ex was a cock and I should have said so, coz she was obviously thinking the same thing or she wouldn't have dumped his lame ass. Oh well, when I do get the chance to talk to her I'll inform all of you of the gut-wrenching pain!
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brownsbros3
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That's a tough situation. I wouldn't tell her right away. Personally I would start by being a friend. Do something nice for her. If she needs to do some venting, be the sounding board. Especially when girls are unsure about something (like jumping right into a new relationship after a breakup), they like guys that will just listen, and provide a shoulder to lean on. Play it cool for maybe a month or two, and then suggest going out with "no strings attached." If she says yes, take her out, show her a good time, and hopefully she'll be interested in a second date.
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THE_GUV
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Saw her last night at the Uni nightclub. It was a school disco theme, so she was looking fantastic in her school uniform. Saw her new boyfriend, he seems ok to be fair. Better than the last one anyway. I dunno if I still want to tell her tho. Thing is she's so unlike girls I usually go for, she's sweet but very naive and shallow. So I feel like I'm back to squear one, I don't know what to do. 
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BiteMeeh
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shallow, u say? eh......not worth the time.
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THE_GUV
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She's not shallow in the Harmony & "Cordette" sense of the word. 1st she's very bright, much more intelligent than me (she'll be earning much more money than me when we finish Uni). She is materialistic herself, her favourite thing is to shop (not unusual for a girl tho) but she doesn't judge people on how they look or what they wear etc... She's also one of the least bitchy women I know. And overall she's probably the nicest person I've ever met. What I mean by shallow is; she's not really passionate about anything (complete opposite of me). And I doubt she's ever lied awake all night coz she's got too many thoughts in her head (outside of being worried about stuff) or had a conversation about the meaning of life. I don't know, shallow's probably not the right word. She's kind and she's sweet and innocent and gentle, and if she had much more depth I think she'd lose that. In today's cynical world it's pretty difficult to find someone who seems to be so untainted by it. So believe me she's worth the time.
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Fry So you guys don't believe in Robot Jesus?
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BiteMeeh
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so heres a question, have u told her yet??
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THE_GUV
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Nope not yet. Saw her on saturday night but a club isn't the right place to say anything, especially when her boyfriend's there. I'm not sure if I will. Depends. If I see her on her own in the next couple of weeks I'll say something but if I don't I'll leave it. Giving myself a deadline of October 31st. If I haven't done it by then I probably never will.
On a side note my sister told me she's getting married in 6 weeks to her complete pr*ck of a boyfriend. That girl has no common sense!
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Fry So you guys don't believe in Robot Jesus?
Jewish Robot We believe he was built, and that he was a very well programmed robot. But he was not our messiah!
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Ric04
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You need to tell her or it'll eat you alive... i know. been there done that many times.
and i'm sorry ur sis is marrying a fucker
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